“When I was a child, I talked like a child; I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me”- 1 Corinthians 13:11 NIV
After my father recently released “6 Tips For Raising Godly Children: Raising Godly Children In Today’s World”, which you can read here if you haven’t done so, I felt that it was necessary to get the child’s perspective and this gave rise to this feature post “Becoming A Godly Child: 5 Key Turning Points”
I’ve been blessed with having the privilege of having my parents to be the kind of parents that they are. From a tender age they have put all efforts in giving me and my siblings the best in life and teaching us in the way of the Lord. Although I did everything willingly and with a heart of love for God, it never really clicked for me until I was in my teens. I think this only happened because I had a revelation of who God is to me and I was finally able to see where my parents were coming from.
My parents were there to train, cultivate and guide me but not spoon feed me. They gave me a kick start in the right direction and helped me develop my character, intellect and interests. In my opinion it’s stereotypical for parents to push you academically and spiritually but not help the child find their unique selling point or creative flair.
I would say I had 5 key turning points that helped me into becoming a godly child:
- Open Up To Your Parents.
As difficult as it may sound for some children, I believe it really helps the child/parent bond and creates a healthy godly relationship with which they can pray about things.
- Listen To Correction
This too may be a hard pill to swallow but I’ve found from my relationship with my parents that they’re doing this to help you be the best that you can be and most things they say or warn about ends up being actualized if not heeded.
- Obey Your Parents
Whether it be washing up as soon as you’re asked or not doing something they’ve said, obedience has so many unseen rewards and blessings. Apart from that, it makes your parents happy.
- Try To Actualize A Separate Time For You And God
This is one of the most important things you can do as a young person developing in Christ. It allows you to fine tune yourself and draw closer to God.
- Have Someone You Can Confide In
This doesn’t necessarily have to be your parent; it can be your sibling, close friend or youth pastor. I think this really helps because it allows you to repent physically in the presence of someone and God. The bible says that it is not good that man should be alone and when you find yourself hiding things or not having someone to admit things to, then that’s when things start going wrong and you can start drifting from God.
Now that I am a young adult, I would say my best advice to parents hoping to raise godly children is to:
- be patient and get to know your child on a personal level,
- pray for them (obviously) and with them,
- understand their weaknesses and strengths
- find a church that suits their needs and caters for them spiritually.
The parenting I’ve received allows me to interact well with people who may not have the same beliefs as me and my brothers or sisters in Christ and still hold on to my convictions and values.
Finally, I think it’s imperative to mention that parents too should not provoke or push their children over the edge.
I pray that God gives us all the grace to be good children to Him.